假如馬英九是我的巧克力

自國際邊緣轉載
作者：甯應斌

馬英九總統日前駁斥他和美籍藝人巧克力的親密光碟傳聞，說是「子虛烏有，空穴來風」。其實這個八卦事件涉及的不只是真假的問題，也揭露了社會文化的成見。若沒有這些成見，也就不會有八卦的存在，所以我們不必執著於事件真假，反而要藉此事件來破除成見。

讓我們做個思想實驗。

假如馬英九與巧克力的事件是真的，那麼人們該怎樣思考總統與同性戀的關係？首先，我們應該像美國人自豪選出了黑人 總統一樣，也自豪選出了同性戀或雙性戀總統；若缺乏這種自豪，那表示我們對同性戀的成見還沒破除，就像少數美國人還沒破除對有色人種的歧視一樣可恥。台灣 人民若能自豪有個同性戀總統，這也會讓國際對台灣人民的素質刮目相看、讚佩欽羨，奠定台灣人道德氣度與多元文化的正面形象。

再說，由於馬英九向來被認為在道德人格與操守上十分嚴謹，故而若此事件為真，就更破除了同性戀不道德的成見。其實 一個人的性取向或偏好對象，也就是此人的性幻想內容，不論是同性、SM、公仔、怪獸、Ａ片等等，都屬於心靈私密的超現實想像，無關道德意志，也和適任公 職、教職或聖職無關。即使把幻想付諸實行，只要不侵犯別人，也無關道德操守。

可是，如果馬英九與巧克力事件為真，那麼馬英九是否對不起周美青？其實這是他們小兩口的家務私事。每對配偶的情慾 狀態不同，不可能都用同一公式套用，只要雙方都同意或諒解，每個家庭自有其安排，社會則應該學習尊重不同家庭或配偶的差異。外遇並不等同錯誤，配偶同意的 外遇更不能說是錯，且與外人根本無關。有些雙性戀者得到配偶的體諒，可以外遇發展同性的性愛關係，這種體諒的情懷與氣度值得讚揚，這種家庭的智慧安排也值 得肯定。

如果馬英九是男同性戀，卻因種種原因而進入異性戀婚姻，那麼是否應該加以譴責呢？目前同性戀婚姻不合法，又有各種 壓力迫人結婚成家，應該有不少同性戀因此而進入異性戀婚姻。這些人未必心存欺騙，有些是出於孝順與家庭和諧而犧牲自我，有些是抱著決心來適應異性戀婚姻生 活，還有一些是為了小孩而繼續維繫婚姻。這些都是情有可原的。更何況天下無數異性戀男女也都是抱著類似的動機與原因而結婚，並未遭受非議。同性戀與異性戀 結合的家庭，或許是無性夫妻，缺乏愛情火花，但是這也是不少異性戀家庭的現狀。總之，這類家庭也有可能是堪稱完滿的，是多元家庭的一種。

看來，站在破除成見的立場，我們反倒希望馬英九與巧克力是真的。

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苦

世界上最痛苦的事莫過於江郎才盡

Watchman

Tonight a comedian died in New York. Somebody knows why.....

Rorschach's Journal: October 12th 1985





Watchman no doubt has created a new set of trend for superheros.
For a Hollywood blockbuster movie, Watchman certainly had its advantages such as good action sciences, sex, and lots of good visual effects and so on.And it is clear that the directer tried hard to replicate what was in the comics. For the fact that he tried to recreate the original comics, Zack Snyder focused too much on all the details, it became too redundant and trivial. And also, there are simply too many metaphors. It might be better if it was a TV series or something like it, that I agree with Fanboy


After watching this movie, it does rise a few arguments.

First I will start with the ordinariness in superheros. In Watchman, superheros might get killed, locked in, not to mention aged and lost shapes. Some of them were really powerful and talented, the rest of them are just average people like you and me. I admire the way Zack Synder enhance or choose not to ignore their wrinkles. This really brings it out more. It further shows how subjugated they were to a greater other out there. When facing the calling of the otherness(by using the word "otherness", I meant it in a more philosophical way. It could be the national machine or an image that they are longing for), they don't always make the right decisions. Take the Comedian for example, he tried to rape silk, killed woman and children cold bloodily, none of these are what we expected from superheros. In his world, once you figure out what a a joke everything is, being the Comedian's the only thing that makes sense.

The death of the comedian brings out the "memory". Everyone remembers him differently, it is exactly by try to retrace their memory, people get to recreate something new. Something they would never imagine.